Failures & Critiques
Many try and fail. What many don’t understand is what they have actually failed at. Trying something and not succeeding at it the first or the tenth or the hundredth time isn’t failure. Failure is giving up. Failure is accepting defeat. It is accepting your weak nature, a compromised state of being, a frail and cowardice existence. Now many who read this will feel offended, good, those who aren’t are the ones who have never let failure beat them.
There are many problems we have as humans. We are emotional beings, sometimes letting our emotions rule and run our brains. If we ever hope to grow, we have to get used to two things, failure & criticism. Failure is the catalyst that allows one to grow. When you first started riding a bike it didn’t come naturally to you. You fell, you hurt yourself, but you kept climbing back on that seat eventually defeating failure. It is this same way that you learn how to excel at life. Life will hurt you, you will fall, but if you ever at any point stop trying to get back up it will keep you down, buried behind your negative self talk and constant complaining. You have to learn to love failure. Embrace it like a long-lost friend, because it is quite likely the best friend you will ever have. Failure is always honest, if you are 300 pounds overweight and try to fit into size 30 jeans, you will fail. If you don’t read, don’t invest in educating yourself and you try to debate with someone who reads and is educated you will fail. If you attempt to race a F1 sports car driver, you will fail. You will fail only because you are dishonest with yourself regarding your abilities, while failure will succeed in revealing to you your weaknesses.
This brings me to my second point. Criticism. If you consider failure your best friend you will be criticized. For it is true friends who have the ability to change your life for the better. They are honest with you, they direct you in the attempt to get you from where you are now to where you want to be. They fill your life with goodness. Accept failure as your best friend and criticism as your teacher. Every time you fail at something ask yourself why did I fail, what can I do to add into me that extra token of excellence to help me succeed. Listening to criticism from others will help you figure out this answer.
I want to end with this, don’t ever mistake other people’s negative, destructive, misjudged, misdirected, uneducated criticism of your efforts as a way to learn. This will only lead to you doubting yourself. You have to look to those who are masters in what you want to achieve. If you want to be the best writer learn from the greatest authors. If you want to become the fastest runner alive, train yourself with those who are better than you. Surround yourself with people who challenge you in a positive way. Break away from those who tie you down, hold you to the ground, and make you feel like you are worth nothing. I am here to tell you your worth is grander than any canyon, and more powerful than even the strongest of warriors. You, as an individual are unique. Your talents, your skills, your being is what separates you from the rest. If you let yourself become a drop in the ocean you will drown amongst the masses. Be the greatest you, you can be, not the best replica of someones talents. Master yourself, and you will set yourself free.
– Omar M