We live in a society where outward appearances have become more important than inward realities. Where gossip and lies are bases for entire shows. We have become so adapt on picking out the flaws of others that we have forgotten about our own problems. Instead we harangue others about what they should and shouldnt be doing. Why do we take such concern in other people’s lives? Making it a point to demean someones mistakes, or choices. How can we go about changing the world when we don’t reflect those same changes in our hearts?
Mercy. That’s what our Prophet was for all of mankind. In the Quran Allah tells us, “And we have sent you making you only a mercy for the worlds” (21:107) He was the most merciful, to the point that on the Day of Judgment every Prophet that came before him will be concerned about themselves. They will all be saying nafsi-nafsi or my self, my self where as our beloved Prophet will be saying ummati-ummati or my ummah, my ummah. How amazing is that? We forget how he forgave people instead of punishing them. How he laughed, loved, showered people with kindness. Instead we think we are doing justice by telling people off. How can we follow the example of the Prophet with hardened hearts. We are living this world with a nafsi-nafsi mentality. Where all we care about is ourselves. Is that not why we backbite, feeling joy in talking down about others, saying negative things about them to feed our own egos.
We have to realize that those most loved by Allah are those who show Mercy towards His creation. We ask Allah to forgive us, to over look our faults and He does, so what right do we have being only His creation to think we have the power to pass judgment? Jarir reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “Allah will not show mercy to a person who does not show mercy to other people.” In another hadith Abu Hurayra said, “I heard the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, the truthful confirmed one, Abu’l-Qasim, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, ‘Mercy is only removed from the one who is destined for wretchedness.”
We should strive to be an ummah that helps each other reach our final destination which is Paradise. This world means so little that its absurd how much we try to cling to it. We need to start doing things that will impact our hereafter. Lets try to help each other grow, be kind so our friends come to us with their troubles and problems with ease instead of with fear as to what we might say to them. We are only meant to help each other, not judge, judging someone doesn’t remove the problem, it doesn’t fix it, it just makes it worse…deteriorating the fabric of society until it becomes weak.
I will end with the words of our Prophet on how important it is for us to support each other: It is related from Abu Musa that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, “One believer in relation to another is like a building whose parts reinforce each other,” and he intertwined his fingers.
– Omar Malik