I would like to start writing every week about issues I hope everyone can related to, or learn from.
This week I will start talking about a topic that can never have enough written about it, patience.
There have been many moments in my life when life its self seemed to be draining out of my body. When nothing seemed to by going my way. Its an interesting observation on the commonly used expression, “why arent things working out the way I want them to?” To understand this we must first understand the difference between what we want and what He wants.
It said by our beloved Prophet; ““How amazing is the affair of the believer. There is good for him in everything and that is for no one but the believer. If good times come his way, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him, and if hardship comes his way, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.”
Instead of just reading the hadith and letting it wash over us, lets instead let it seep into our hearts in a way that it makes an impact. Our Prophet pbuh says, “Amazing is the life of the believer” The first line is enough to put a smile on my face, that our Prophet, the man who went through the hardest of trials and tribulations describes the life of a beliver as being amazing. He continues by saying; “If good times come his way, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him, and if hardship comes his way, he endures it patiently and that is better for him.”
It is the last half of the hadith is where our patience is tested. When things are not going our way, when life doesnt seem to be fair. What many people dont understand, or if they do seem to forget, is that life isnt meant to be fair. This world is filled with people that are not fair, that are corrupt, ill hearted and to find absolute justice in this world is like trying to place a drop of ink in the ocean and hope you will find it again. But if we look at this from a different perspective we find ease in our hearts knowing that our final judgment in reserved for the Day when everything will be judged by the most fair of all judges.
So what does it mean to be patient. Is it enough to smile on the outside when on the insde we feel like screeming, is patience not yelling when someone provokes you, or is it rather showing constrain in a moment of severe hardship? Patience is all of those things, patience is knowing in our hearts that no matter what comes at us, from a small scratch to loss of a loved one it is all from Allah. Think about it this way, when you recieve a gift from a friend, or family they give to you something they think you need or you will like, but when Allah gives you a gift He knows that it is the BEST for you. Think about that, this isnt something from your mother, your father, your wife or husband it is from the One who created us. Created our hands, our mouths, our souls so what makes us even think for one second that He doesnt care about us. When we make something, or buy something how much do we take care of that object. Think about all the materialistic things that we panic over if they get a scratch or are bumped. Imagine the love we have for these things, now imagine if you love these things how great is the love Allah has for His creation. Love that is infinitly greater then that between a mother and her children. It is these types of thoughts that get us to better understand our religion, our Allah. He is after all ours, as we are His and if He is telling us that no matter what comes from Him it is for our best. It is only if we condition our hearts to believe that will we find in this world the fairest thing we can ever hope to grasp.
InshAllah this serves as a forum for people to share their thoughts, their experiences, their opinions, their stories on how they over came a burden, how they remained patient and saw the outcome of it in this life. Please leave comments on what topics you would like to read about, stories you would like to share, or difficulty you are having in your life right now and I will love to write back.
– Omar Malik